Sincere communication is an important part of any relationship, whether it’s romantic or platonic. And whether you need to give or receive apologies, knowing how to apologize is vital.
So how can you be certain that an apology is sincere and will help mend the wound or miscommunication?
Apologizing can renew trust, soothe hurt feelings, and return the lifeblood to a damaged relationship. But when someone hurts you and gives you a fake or insincere apology, it only makes things worse.
Here are 12 of the most common apologies that will fail to heal your relationship:
1. “I’m sorry if…”
This is a conditional apology. It falls short of a full apology by suggesting only that something “might” have happened.
I’m sorry if I did anything wrong.
I’m sorry if you were offended.
2. “I’m sorry that you…”
This is a blame-shifting apology. It’s no apology at all. Rather, it puts the onus on you as the problem.
I’m sorry you felt hurt.
I’m sorry you think I did something wrong.
I’m sorry you feel I’m so bad.
3. “I’m sorry, but…”
This excuse-making apology does nothing to heal the wounds caused.
I’m sorry, but most other people wouldn’t have overreacted like you did.